Bite Your Tongue
“But no one can tame the tongue;
it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison.”
James 3:8; NASB
I once heard someone say, “if we were to talk to others the way we talk to ourselves, no one would want to be around us.” I think for many of us this is true. Think about how many times a day you think something you would never consider saying out loud to someone. Do you find yourself “biting your tongue” so you don’t hurt someone’s feelings or cause an argument? If you find this to be the case in your everyday life, then here is something to consider. It’s not the situation, the person, or what someone has said that is the problem. The core issue is the condition of your heart.
Our personal thoughts are unbridled signals by which we can determine the condition of our heart. Because our thoughts are private, we can think things we know others will not hear, avoiding embarrassment or confrontation. This gives us the freedom to pass judgment, speak profanities, and form opinions without fear of negative repercussions, so we think. But the Lord knows our deepest thoughts and we are ultimately accountable to Him for all things. So, whether others ever hear those thoughts, they are still a problem.
James goes on to tell us: “With it (the tongue) we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men” (Vs.9). How true it is that “from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing” (vs.10). You might say, “I would never say this or that to him or her”, but the problem is, you don’t know that for sure. If it’s in your heart to think it, it may very well come out. The old saying “what’s in the well comes out in the bucket” can prove itself true at the most inconvenient times. All it takes is a bad day, coupled by a harsh word from someone, and suddenly what’s in your heart comes flying out.
Jesus said, “For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart” (Matt. 12:34). We are told by the Lord to love our neighbors. This love is not an emotional love, but a love we decide to have for others. Godly love has no room for thoughts that can’t be spoken. Only when we invite God’s love into our hearts can we experience a change in our thoughts. When your heart is right, your thoughts will be right, and you will not have to “watch what you say” around anyone. This is something that takes work, but the results are well worth the effort.
Let the Lord fill your well with His love and what comes up in the bucket will uplift and edify everyone around you. You cannot out-give God. The more love you give the more love He will pour over you. You will find speaking life into other people’s lives is a lot more fun than biting your tongue. What an incredible blessing.
Have a great week and God bless.